How Good Men Attract High Quality Women Without Even Trying

Has it ever annoyed you how so-called “bad boys” seem to attract plenty of "hot girls"?

Well, I’ve got good news for you.

Good men — men who are clear about their values, what they stand for, and try their best to live a life of integrity — good men have a distinct advantage when it comes to attracting high quality women.

(Notice that “good men” are different from “nice guys.” Nice guys are actually codependent narcissists: they act nice in order to get the girl to like him. When she doesn’t like him back — “despite all the nice things he’s done for her” — he gets bitter and angry. Nice guys are not good men.)

Good men can attract high quality women using the concept I teach in this video series and in my new upcoming course, Invincible

In my last video to you, I explained the secret to attracting women effortlessly. It’s based on entering the “Dao State” — or in modern scientific terminology, the “Flow” state — while with a woman you’re attracted to.

If you haven’t seen that video yet, make sure you watch that first (just search your inbox for my last message to you).

Most men, however, are unable to enter the “Dao State” at will, especially when they’re around attractive women.

And this is where the good man has a distinct advantage over any other type of man.


I explain how in this new video I made for you here on this page.

You’ll be stunned by how easily a truly good man can attract high quality women.


P.S. If you missed the first two videos in this series, you can also watch them by clicking on the thumbnails in the menu bar just above.

To Do Now: Watch the entire video closely, and then share what your ideal day would be like with your ideal woman!


  • Charlie

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I am going to write down everything and really focus here. I am sick of being in a loop where I allow the woman to control my confidence and how I feel. I want to be confident in myself again and be in the state of flow like you mention here. If I can get it under control here, I think I can do it at work too and just have a more fulfilling life in general.

    • Sam

      Reply Reply June 24, 2020

      These videos seem really solid. Especially the emphasis on having standards for yourself. My ideal date with my ideal woman would be going to a nice restaurant and talking about my job or favorite movies and music on the date

    • Enrique

      Reply Reply August 30, 2021

      I dealy, I will have a nice dinner, chat about anything or everything, preferences in lifestyle etc then go to the pub, disco or whatever to have fan, dance, enjoy the night the end it in a hotel at morning afterwards 😉.

  • Paul

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I noticed my patterns right away. I become needy and I can tell it is such a turn off for women. It may not happen right away either. Sometimes the women will just allow it to continue for months or years before they suddenly just “had enough”. I watched the three first videos, looking forward to the next one.

  • Vince B.

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    David, your work is stellar. I have done a lot of courses with those pick up artists and that stuff is great for one night stands and just having fun but for long term fulfillment, it just don’t work. If any man out there wants a lasting relationship on a stable foundation with a woman, you have to do what David says. He is spot on.

  • Christopher Roberts

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I like how you say “high quality women”. One of the biggest issues for a lot of guys (and at one point myself) is that they will see the hottest woman out where ever they are and have the need to “bag her”. If you are basing your attraction on how much skin is showing or her looks and nothing more, it will not last.

  • Dan

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    When you go into a date with a woman telling yourself anything in your mind, you are already not allowing yourself to be in a state of flow. You are stuck in your own mind and once your mind starts going off the rails, you can’t stop it. I have done it plenty of time myself.

  • Mike P.

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I feel like the looser a woman acts in public, the more obvious a man should avoid her. They are looking for someone to prey on. Like some kind of animal in a night club or something. No matter how attractive a woman may be, never get sucked into this trap!

  • Leonard

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    Another great video David. I have been a long time follower and listener of your work. You have not only helped me out but several buddies of mine. I don’t know how you do your research but everything you have ever spoken on, you have been 100% right. I just wanted to take the time to thank you for all your hard work.

  • Peter Rouge

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    The last date I was one, I can tell you first hand that I was doing exactly what you said. I was sitting in my head waiting for her to tell me I can be confident or happy. I don’t even remember being like this when I was younger. I was just myself and confident and girls would flock to me. Now I spend so much time in my head that it is hard for me to even enjoy the moment.

  • Will

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I feel like some women will actually prey on men who they can tell are weak or lack confidence. They typically will lead these guys on and then once they have had their fill, discard them for the next one who comes along. I have been in situations like this and I hated it. I am glad you brought it up.

  • Jake M.

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    This makes a lot of sense when you compare dating to college tests. I feel like the instant feedback helps in most cases but when you can’t get it, then it makes the time between spent more in your own head than in the moment. You end up worrying about pointless things because of this.

  • Nick

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    Loved the first two parts because i hadn’t heard of the do more trap and the research that went into figuring out the flow and what it is. This series is amazing!

  • Cole

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    Pretending to the be someone you’re not isn’t gonna work. I agree David. You must fully commit to it day to day.

  • jamie

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    “You will be wondering what else you can do to attract her”. This hits home for me. I’ve spent most of my youth thinking, overthinking what to say what to do so that i could keep the conversation going. Awesome series!!

  • Ben

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    i really like that this course doesn’t endorse the fact that you have to do dozens of cold approaches just to *maybe* be more attractive. I like that. Will be enrolling for sure!

  • ryan

    Reply Reply February 5, 2019

    I really like the analogy with the university papers. This finally clicked with me.
    I still have trouble reading the responses from women, i’m so lost ahah. Looking forward to the course mate

  • Scotty

    Reply Reply April 20, 2019

    Leap I’m stuck in a do more trap trying to figure out a way understand what you talkin about but it’s trying to figure out how I put it to use

  • Rpb

    Reply Reply May 30, 2019

    Love it. This concept applies to your whole life NOT just your pursuit of your ideal woman

  • Paul

    Reply Reply July 18, 2019

    How can I prove to the lady home with that I love her make her trust me me she has just come out of a bad relationship I am completely the opposite to her partner she doesn’t know how it feels to be treated properly I cannot convince her enough that I just want to treat her good

  • Jon-Paul

    Reply Reply August 12, 2019

    I have followed many dating and self-help sites over the years, and they have touched on many of the concepts you are talking about. I am hooked on these series though, because you explain these concepts in depth in a highly relatable way. I think i have found what I have been looking for for a long time.

    Thank you.

  • Beau

    Reply Reply September 3, 2019

    I imagine going to a nice restaurant that is full of people, with my date by my side equally as confident and happy. Ready to experience love and life together.

    • Kristian hanford

      Reply Reply March 17, 2020

      I fell into the do more trap as soon as I met my ideal woman, and I found it hard to get into my normal flow. But with everything David has said on what to do and how to do it it’s given me the knowledge that I needed. I met her while we were working with each other, then our place was closed we lost all contact with each other and I didn’t see her again for a long time. When we did start meeting up again I was to nervous and to much of a nice guy with her, but the training has helped me a lot, thank you David.

  • Richard House

    Reply Reply October 27, 2019

    Great stuff again David. I am taking my date to the local casino for a day of fun followed by dinner. I want people to see how happy we are together, and how we gel, or flow together.

  • Avery brown

    Reply Reply February 17, 2020

    Ideal date would be with my ideal partner would be going to watch our favorite comedy shows or a nice romantic dinner and movie night Netflix night on the couch maybe a fun night in

  • Anthony

    Reply Reply March 7, 2020

    Am already in a relationship and am not interested in any other but her…..but some how I feel like she’s slipping away kinda,may be because am insecure

  • Kristian hanford

    Reply Reply March 17, 2020

    I fell into the do more trap as soon as I met my ideal woman, and I found it hard to get into my normal flow. But with everything David has said on what to do and how to do it it’s given me the knowledge that I needed. I met her while we were working with each other, then our place was closed we lost all contact with each other and I didn’t see her again for a long time. When we did start meeting up again I was to nervous and to much of a nice guy with her, but the training has helped me a lot, thank you David.

  • gabriel

    Reply Reply April 23, 2020

    I’m already in a reconquering mission for the girl I am but this is definetely helping me have a better idea of things.

  • Jan

    Reply Reply September 7, 2020

    I love your videos, David – they are right on the money, and the information given is spot-on. I just wonder why the music has to be so damn loud! I find it very distracting at that level. Just sayin’…;)

  • Dominic Nunziata

    Reply Reply October 23, 2020

    My ideal date would have me connecting with my date. We would continue the date at her place or my place.

  • Colin Overton

    Reply Reply November 15, 2020

    I’ve definitely been going after the wrong type of woman then, Indentifying your core values and beliefs aligns you with what type of woman you want in your life.
    The physical attraction does play a part, but not so significantly in the grand scheme of things

  • Jason Walters

    Reply Reply December 7, 2020

    I’m recently going through a divorce after 10 years and two kids. It’s brutal. I don’t want it and she won’t go to counseling or anything. She went to her own counselor and drank her kook aid now all she wants is to be done even after she cheated on me and lied about. I’m a mess to say the least and have tried everything to get her back. After watching the do more trap I realize my efforts have come across needy and insecure. I have to set standards for myself. Thanks for the videos. Gave me a new perspective

  • Joey

    Reply Reply March 29, 2021

    My ideal woman would show interest by asking questions, being humorous and playful. We would have a natural conversation flow with laughter, sharing interests, goals, funny stories, and a little intimacy.

  • Nils

    Reply Reply May 22, 2021

    Really nice stuff! Could you please turn down or off the background music for the next part as I find it distracting. Cheers!

  • Jody

    Reply Reply June 1, 2021

    I get it but I’m really throwed off. I am the youngest of 4 brothers that would pick on me called me fat and Judy instead of Jody. My dad was a really bad and mean alcoholic my mom was obese and addicted to gambling. I did good with women in my 20 s but I didn’t care or do them right I got married at 28 and was married for 18 years I fell so unattractive to her I didn’t want to be married anymore. Now I really don’t have a clue after being married for so long. I think I subconsciously push women away. My inner child is probably a huge mess

  • Craig Smith

    Reply Reply June 4, 2021

    I like your points and links to psychology. I currently have my dream girl, and I am trying to look for ways to improve our relationship, your key advice has been to do less. Hmmm, revolutionary, it is something that I am incorporating into my ideology, I have heard of the flow state for my job in the military but not looked at it for my relationship. My dream first date is to go Scubadiving with my partner. Lol which we did. Thank you for your advice and I look forward to your final video

  • Hien

    Reply Reply July 16, 2021

    My ideal date with the ideal woman would be an outdoor adventure away from the city, where we are surrounded by nature and its beauty. My ideal woman is easy-going, always receptive to my suggestions, and a little bit more cautious than I am (and drop-dead gorgeous, of course). She would follow me to the end of the Earth, wherever I go, without question.

  • Teyo

    Reply Reply August 3, 2021

    These are great videos my confidence is returning on knowing how to react in these situations now
    Thankyou so much for your teachings

  • Brian

    Reply Reply August 31, 2022

    David, I am an educator and recently divorced after 33 years of marriage. One of the things I have been putting into practice is similar to how I do lesson plans, via Understanding by Design. Design the lesson by determining what you want to the student to learn, then determine what and how you are going to teach. I am so happy to have you confirm this as a universal axiom. Yes, yes, yes. What is the goal? What result do you want to see. I am seeing tremendous results even as an older guy. Thank you for putting this in perspective in the relationship world.

  • Ron Oppenheim

    Reply Reply October 26, 2022

    Hey David,

    I think at superficially I can say my ideal women would be:

    Intelligent, patient, caring and supportive – independent and has her life together – and adventurous in bed with a deep romantic side (I am going to avoid appearance, though I have some qualities I look for there as well).

    My ideal date is much more difficult.

    Obviously it should end with amazing, deep and warm intimacy.

    I am lazy, sometimes I just want to invite a women straight to my place, have a glass of wine, have a nice conversation, listen to some music, maybe watch a movie and then…

    Now coming back to reality – I guess my ideal date would be a nice dinner, some drinks, a good flowing discussion, going for a nice walk afterwards, maybe catching a concert (after dinner instead of a walk) and then going back to my or her place.

    It is very hard for me to visualise what I would be saying – why? Because I know flirting is super important in attracting and arousing women and I have no idea about that – my coach says I don’t need to know anything but I really feel like I don’t get it yet – I’m so inexperienced I don’t know what the acceptable boundaries here would be – how sexual can one be? When to escalate to more sexuality? So on and so forth.

    I gotta say, I love your series and from all the dating coaches and courses I’ve been taking, they touch on some concepts regarding your self esteem, confidence and internal measuring. But they also tell you you have to stand more like this, speak more like that, get close like this, escalate by doing these things…so at the end of the day it’s like ‘Be yourself (just ditch the insecurities) but also make sure you are like this that and the million other things.

    That is why even though I have 3-4 more courses I bought to go through, I am feeling kind of paralysed at the moment, and am wondering if I am in the ‘Do More Trap’.

    Your work seems to resonate that much stronger with me because of the deep scientific and psychological layers you approach things with – and Invincible seems to be an amazing product aimed at unleashing ones best self – and something that can benefit one waaaay beyond just dating.

    Super keen on doing it – but financially not sure I’ll be able to.

    Just know you have a big fan in Vienna Austria.


    Man, I am a music composer -> if there is one thing I think can be improved on your videos it is the music (I find that it is a bit too active and sometimes in the way). If you ever want better music for your material, just get in touch with me 😉

    All the best!

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