President of the Academy, Director, and Coach
As a published author and an international top dating coach and men’s development coach, I empower people to attain the social intelligence, competence, and confidence for success and happiness in dating, relationships, and their lifestyles.
I’ve lived in several countries and moved to Singapore to take up a position as a professor in the Department of Philosophy at the National University of Singapore, specialising in Asian religious philosophy, moral philosophy, and philosophical psychology. I have a Ph.D. in Asian Cultures and Philosophy from the University of Michigan and have held numerous academic fellowships, including from Harvard, Princeton, Peking University, Tsinghua University in Beijing, The Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada, the University of Toronto, McGill University. I don’t tell you this to impress you but to impress upon you how I’ve been a life-long academic and base all my teachings on solid academic research, including from such diverse fields and disciplines as psychology, philosophy, biology, neuroscience, sociology, Asian cultural studies, literature, history, and the cutting edge of interdisciplinary research in the behavioral sciences.
Over the years, I’ve had the great privilege of training tens of thousands of people from diverse backgrounds and from all over the world, including East and Southeast Asia, North America, Europe, the UK, Australia, and New Zealand. And I’m honored to have served as their guide in surpassing their relationship goals and have been overjoyed to witness some of them go on to become happily married men and even proud fathers!
But life wasn’t always so good…
I used to be the “odd one out.”
I was born in Taiwan to a conservative Christian family. When I was five, we immigrated to Kansas City, Missouri. This was the early 80s. That’s a pretty strange place and time for a five-year old boy from Taiwan to grow up in. I didn’t know a word of English.
My parents tell me that I didn’t say a word for the whole first year of school in Kansas. My teachers thought I was learning disabled. It’d be an understatement to say that I was the odd one out.
They told my parents to put me back a year. Luckily, my parents didn’t listen. Apparently, I couldn’t stop talking the next year.
Looking back, I appreciate how rare it is to grow up with loving parents and cool sisters. And I did have that.
After a few other moves around the US because of my dad’s work, we ended up in Toronto, Canada. We settled in a suburb, which for a long time was predominantly upper-middle class white. Nowadays you can’t walk down the street without seeing an Asian grocery store. But back then, things were very different.
Fast-forward to high school. Things got a little better.
I made the basketball team because I was quick and a tenacious scrapper. But I was only 5’7” (170cm) when everyone was already six feet tall. To make matters worse, my dad was afraid I’d break my new glasses. I had to wear my old, plastic glasses attached to a string that tied behind my head. So I couldn’t see very well. Even the ball was blurry unless it was right in front of my head. I also had to wear basketball shoes that were two sizes too big just because my well-meaning uncle bought them for me, and we didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I was a size 7. My shoes were a size 9. So not only could I not see anything, I also kept tripping over my own feet. Oh yeah, and don’t forget, I was six inches shorter than everybody else.
In warm-up for a big game, I once dribbled the ball on my over-sized shoe, and the ball went flying into the bench. I couldn’t even do a lay-up during the pre-game warm-up! Our star player asked me, “Damn, man. Why are you always the odd one out?” He was actually a pretty nice guy. He was just wondering… As was I.
Things started to turn around in my senior year of high school. I was a really sweet guy with a manly, deep voice for a kid my size. I was the star jazz musician in our high school for the performing arts. At least I had that. I was also a star student, getting straight A’s with little effort.
This was enough to get me my first real girlfriend, a curvy dancer with a sexy Marilyn Monroe voice. That was a great combination. And she was white, though that wasn’t a big deal for me, in case you were wondering, since almost all the girls in my school were white. At least there was one advantage to growing up in an upper-middle class all-white neighborhood. Everyone was polite (so at least no overt racism), and if you dated a girl at all, chances are good she’d be white.
We dated for over a year, right up to when I left for university. Why would a girl like this go out with a guy like me? Her answer: “You are such a good guy.” I guess maybe she was already tired of the bad boys. And she was into the Buddha and yoga and shit like that, so I guess I was exotic enough for her.
She dumped me after I became clingy, possessive, and very jealous of any guy who touched her. Actually, she was very forgiving, even after I cried in front of her many times, begging her to take me back, which she did, over and over, until she had had enough of my self-indulgent dramatics. I was pretty pathetic back then.
I was the odd one out with my friends, too, who were all white. When we went to the movies, it was six white kids and me, the Asian kid.
I moved up to Montreal to start university at McGill, where I promptly became once again, the odd one out. On my birthday during the first fall term, all the kids on my dormitory floor were going out to party because it was a Friday. The don remembered it was my birthday and told everyone. They all wished me a happy birthday, the drunkards that they were, and invited me along. But I couldn’t hold a conversation with any of them to save my life. Halfway down the walk on the way to the bars, they ditched me. Feeling like a loser, I tried to cheer myself up by spending some time in the local strip joint, of which downtown Montreal had plenty. But that just made me feel worse since I was still trying to be a good Christian kid back then. I was the odd one out again.
Then my parents shipped me off to spend the summer in Taiwan to learn Chinese. Previously, I didn’t like visiting family in Taiwan. I was the Chinese-looking kid who didn’t speak Chinese well. In Asia, I didn’t fit in either. I was the odd one out there, too.
But this time was different. I was on my own. Before this, I wasn’t attracted to Asian girls because they all reminded me of my sisters… and that’s just wrong. But this summer turned me. I think it was because I finally saw enough distinct-looking Asian women in one place at one time that my aesthetic sensibilities were finally honed. Asian girls didn’t all look the same. In fact, some looked extremely alluring. I was hooked.
When I got back to Canada, I started making a lot more Asian friends, including some cute Asian girls. My life regained its passion. I started to come alive.
I took a bunch of classes in Asian studies. I loved them. I dropped my pre-med courses, and I switched to a major in Asian studies. Then I went on to graduate school, studying Asian philosophy, religion, history, literature, and culture.
I got in touch with my Asian heritage. I spent extended periods in Asia and became fluent in Chinese. And I began to feel like maybe I wasn’t the odd one out after all.
But I was still raised in a very conservative background. I even spent a gap year studying theology in a fundamentalist seminary.
So I did what every good conservative boy in his mid-twenties ought to do. I married the nice Christian girlfriend I was dating. LOL.
Our first few years of marriage were happy enough. She was supportive and sexy, at the start anyway. But then things started to turn sour. After all, inside I was still a needy wuss. My wife became more demanding and shrill. Her feminine charms withered, as she made up for my lack of emotional masculinity by emphasizing her own. We often fought. Furniture and dishware were thrown about. I was deeply depressed, but didn’t even know it.
Then came a period of a couple of years where all my doubts and questions about fundamentalist theology surfaced in a strong way. I looked everywhere for satisfactory answers, but found none. My priorities and purposes shifted… big time.
Eventually, my wife and I separated for a couple of years. At first, we were forced to do so because of work obligations. Then, we separated for good. And then came the divorce. It was an amicable split. No kids. No real assets. Just broken hearts.
But my old social circle of conservative “friends” judged me. Again, I was the odd one out.
Yet this time, I was on my way to realizing new dreams.
I had the good fortune to be in a class with Christian Hudson, the co-founder of the second-largest dating skills company in the world at the time and who was then responsible for running much of its operations. He graciously took me under his wing and showed me the ropes. I owe him a huge debt.
“I knew years ago that David [The Asian Rake] had the potential to reach the level of the top gurus and even beyond. And now he’s fulfilled all that and more! With all his unique experiences and skills, he is totally going to dominate.”
–Christian Hudson, founder of The Social Man
My life took a big turn when I traveled to China for a couple years. With some of the things I learned from Christian, as well as various ebooks, audio courses, and video courses, as well as everything I could get my hands on, I achieved some amazing success. The rumours surrounding this time echo through the internet until today.
By the end of all this, I could count run-ins with the Chinese mafia and the Japanese yakuza among my many crazy adventures. I was also lucky enough to count many incredibly alpha Asian men living in Asia as my mentors and trainers.
I returned to America a new man. I trained under some of the best dating coaches in the industry. I started to get really crazy results.
Word got around, and I started teaching some of my friends around the world. They started to get results. And word continued to spread.
I started a blog as a way to keep in touch with close friends while I spent yet another year abroad in China, where I continued coaching and seeing clients get massive results. And I opened the blog to the public.
After a few months, the blog really caught on and the readership exploded 900% in a single month! Guys were writing in on a steady basis. Most of the emails were praises, compliments, and stories of gratitude, plus the occasional hater, but those always make for fun reads 😉
Oh yeah, and then there were all the women throughout Asia and the Americas…
The Asian Rake [David Tian] is truly insightful—a world traveler, a scholar, enlightened and brilliant and charming. He’s got wild stories of his travels through North America and the Orient, and he talks with rapture about dangerous attempts of criminals trying to rob or extort him. A renaissance man, if you will, who is knowledgeable about history and art but dresses in sharp, tailored, high fashion. He combines power and charm. If you met him, you’d like him.”
-Sebastian Drake, co-founder of The Approach with Vin DiCarlo
Finally, I was no longer the odd one out.
I guess in the land of men, I still am the odd one out. But this time, it’s in a good way, at least if you consider something like 10% of the men in this world have been intimate with over 90% of the women, and the top 1% have been with even more.
Life’s funny sometimes, especially when you are always the “special one,” the odd one out 😉
In late 2010, I resigned my tenure-track professorship at the National University of Singapore to take up my current position at the Aura Dating Academy.
When I told my close friends I was resigning my university professorship to serve at this dating academy, I was looking forward to their encouragement and support. At least, I was expecting understanding.
But after stunned silence, they said, “David, you are absolutely out of your mind! How could you do something so off-the-wall crazy?!”
My Friends Thought I Was Completely Crazy!
And they had a point…
Life was really great for me the past several years leading up to this.
I had transformed from a very lonely, socially awkward graduate student and divorcee, spending my weekends eating cup noodles while hunched over mountains of library books all alone… into a guy who had fought with Japanese yakuza, wrestled with Chinese mafia (and lost pretty badly), trained in the Chinese underworld, trekked my way through much of Asia, enjoyed the abundance of Asia’s women, juggled several quality girlfriends at a time, and befriended some of the coolest people in the world.
Over almost a decade, I had acquired the mindsets and skills to enable me to meet and date some amazing women of the type that I had only dreamt about as a young man.
In 2007, I had started up a blog on my dating life at www.asianrake.com under the pen name, Asian Rake David, which chronicled part of this journey and gained me a lot of notoriety around Asia and the world. I had lots and lots of pleasure during those years and really lived it up, jet setting around the world and enjoying the high life—“models and bottles” and more pleasure than I could handle.
Within a month after I arrived in Singapore in 2008, the press came calling. The media featured me on the front page of a national newspaper with a full 3-page spread about my work as a dating coach. This led to my own regular dating column each week in a national newspaper, as well as numerous appearances on regional and national TV, and in Chinese and English media. All this press coverage led to a flood of requests for advice and coaching.
In my professional life, I had finally achieved the success I had been aiming at for over a decade as a budding academic. And I had become the envy of many of my grad school peers, having secured a coveted tenure-track position in a top research university in one of the most vibrant cities in Asia. I made a 6-figure salary, including a housing allowance. As an assistant professor, I taught about 7 hours a week total for about 6 months of the year. The rest of the time, I freely indulged my personal interests reading and writing about philosophy, religion, and the meaning of life.
I had a fabulous pad in the tallest residential building in the country with 5-star facilities. I was continuing to date some amazing women. And I had a great social circle of cool and fun friends. We went to exclusive parties and red-carpet events with VIP treatment. And I was doing this in many other cities around Asia and the Americas.
On top of all that, I had met some wonderful women who gave me all the love, pleasure, and romance I was seeking and with whom I enjoyed fulfilling relationships.
Life was very comfortable, and I was lulled into a kind of complacency in life that comes from not having to worry too much about anything major.
That’s why when I told my friends and acquaintances that I was quitting my job at the university to launch Aura Dating Academy, they thought I was crazy!
“You’re living the dream, man. Why take this unnecessary risk?”
It wasn’t just because I needed another challenge.
For me, the biggest thing that kept haunting me during all those easy initial years in Singapore was that I knew I could make a much bigger difference in this world if I could continue to help more men meet, attract, and date the women of their dreams.
I wanted to contribute to something that was far bigger than myself.
After all, the wisest people in the world would agree that the three most important things in life are having good health, wealth, and relationships.
And I knew that my life trajectory, experiences, and skills had given me a unique way of contributing value to the world, coaching others to success in their relationships.
In many areas of life, I had already reached success and happiness, and now it was time to focus on the next level—helping others actualize their potential.
David Tian, the renowned Asian Rake, is as intelligent as he is charming. He makes you feel at ease just being around him, which makes you wonder how quickly and comfortably he makes women melt. It’s a pleasure to meet a fellow dating coach who is so passionate about helping his clients to meet the women of their dreams.
Creator of the Love Systems Day Game Workshop and Chief Day Game Instructor at Love Systems.
I derive my significance in life from helping YOU achieve your goals.
I loved the high of helping other guys find love, pleasure, and romance for themselves, and just plain seeing them become happy. So I thought, why not devote my life to this great cause?
Like the time one of my previous Platinum Program clients emailed me from China announcing that he had met the girl of his dreams, and then a year later, sent me my wedding invitation to their special day.
Or how excited another client was when he finally had his first real kiss at 24 years old. He had taken a photo with his phone of the two of them kissing in Clarke Quay.
Or the time I got an email from a previous client, who had just gotten married the year before to a woman he had met during our coaching program, announcing the birth of his baby girl.
It can get kinda crazy, too, like the NSFW photo a Platinum Program client sent me of himself in bed in the morning with two sleeping beauties he had taken out on a group date the night before.
Or the constant stream of email from alumni updating me on their very active love lives and thanking me for changing their lives and for helping them live their dreams.
So I took a long, hard look at the current state of the dating arts industry—what men around the world could choose from if they wanted to get help with women—and I saw some huge flaws and problems.
After much research, testing, and analysis, Aura Dating Academy was born to address those needs and truly transform the dating lives of countless men and women. I am now the Director of Aura Transformation Ltd.
I’m super excited and honored to be a part of this movement in Singapore and around the world towards empowering modern men to fulfill their potential as sexy, powerful, and charismatic.
I’ve gone all in.
Now it’s up to you…
Do yourself a favor. Get it done. Get it handled.